Comments on: Toddlers, Tantrums, and Time-Ins, Oh My!

By: » Babes and Boundaries~A Gentle Parenting Perspective Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources

Sat, 23 Mar 2013 22:06:35 +0000

[...] shoes?” Three year olds are typically becoming articulate enough that, if they aren’t already stressed, they can do a pretty good job of explaining themselves. You might be surprised to hear something [...]

By: L.R. Knost

L.R. Knost — Fri, 15 Feb 2013 22:02:16 +0000

Here’s an article specifically about hitting, mama: http://www.littleheartsbooks.com/2012/06/19/when-children-hit10-tips-for-parents/ You’ll see in #7 that addressing the injured child first is an important part of helping the child who is hitting (or biting, kicking, etc.) learn that other people have feelings and to model caring about those feelings. Engaging the child who has hurt another child in ‘fixing’ the hurt by asking them to get a bandage or asking if they want to kiss the injury is sometimes a good approach, too, but if the child is too upset at the time that may have to wait. Hope that helps!

By: Deb K

Deb K — Fri, 15 Feb 2013 11:42:59 +0000

Hi there,
Just revisiting this article as I need reminders on how to respond to my 3yo gently. My question is, what do you do with any other children (esp very young ones/babies) who are in the equation, especially if they were the ‘victim’ of the outburst/bad behaviour? Say my 3yo gets angry and hits her 14mo sister, causing the little one to get upset, surely I don’t just ignore the 14mo while I comfort and help the 3yo? Do I take her with me to the cozy corner and cuddle both of them, or do you see it as crucial that the ‘offending’ child gets undivided attention at that point?
Thanks.

By: » 5 Tips for Parent Rejects Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources

» 5 Tips for Parent Rejects Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources — Thu, 17 Jan 2013 00:03:08 +0000

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By: » When Children Hit~10 Tips for Parents Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources

Tue, 15 Jan 2013 23:00:47 +0000

[...] But if they’re headed toward a meltdown, they’ll need help processing their feelings, and a Calm-Me-Jar and Time-in Cozy Corner may be the best [...]

By: Tornado in a Jar « Babysitting with Buddha

Tornado in a Jar « Babysitting with Buddha — Fri, 05 Oct 2012 13:34:14 +0000

[...] I found this wonderful post about using Time-IN to connect instead of Time-Outs for hitting. I’ve been trying it and I think it’s [...]

By: » Gentle, Practical, Effective Discipline Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources

Mon, 01 Oct 2012 02:54:33 +0000

[...] I advise parents to use Time-Ins instead of Time-Outs in order to connect-to-correct, but there is one area that I advise the use [...]

By: L.R. Knost

L.R. Knost — Tue, 25 Sep 2012 18:15:11 +0000

Make sure you are using glitter glue instead of just glitter, and use warm water so the glue will liquify quickly. I like Dollar Store craft glitter glue the best for this use!

By: Jenn

Jenn — Tue, 25 Sep 2012 05:19:23 +0000

What kind of glitter did you use? I have tried 3 different kinds of glitter and it all seems to float to the top instead of sinking.

By: » A Bit of Brain Science from Walt Disney Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources

Fri, 17 Aug 2012 21:17:33 +0000

[...] What they really need is help…first, help coping with their big emotions…then, help reconnecting with their source of safety and security (you!)…and last, help processing the problem that sent them into a maelstrom of emotion in the first place. Punishing them, yelling at them, sending them to their room, or putting them in time-out disconnects them even further from their source of security and not only delays a resolution of the issue, but misses an opportunity to equip them with the tools they need to handle future problems.” Read more [...]