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Mon, 25 Mar 2013 15:37:59 +0000

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Thu, 14 Mar 2013 21:33:30 +0000

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By: L.R. Knost

L.R. Knost — Wed, 09 Jan 2013 04:54:28 +0000

I hear you, mama. It’s hard when our spouses aren’t on the same page with parenting ideals and practices that we are. All I can tell you is to keep working on your own parenting, your own connection with your little one, and let him see how you can set and enforce boundaries gently and effectively. Have you seen http://www.littleheartsbooks.com/2012/09/30/practical-gentl-effective-discipline/ ? If he’s willing to read through some of the ideas there, he may understand that there is a distinct difference between gentle parenting and passive parenting.
Either way, for yourself just keep in mind that the goal of gentle parenting isn’t to ‘work’ in the sense of making our children perfect, because they already are perfect. They are perfectly children in every way–getting into things because of curiosity, acting out because of frustration, not cooperating because of testing out their independence, etc.–exactly as they should be. The goal of gentle parenting is to guide them through the same perfectly normal stages and behaviors of childhood that all children, even punitively parented children, experience, but to do the guiding in a peaceful, kind, and empathetic way. Your little one will test and challenge you at times or all the time, depending on her own unique personality, so equip yourself with the tools you need and work to model the behavior you desire, but also be kind to yourself and give yourself grace when you make mistakes. That’s a powerful lesson to our children in and of itself!

By: KK

KK — Mon, 07 Jan 2013 15:03:27 +0000

Awwww!!! This is awesome, Thank You!! I’m with Allison, I find myself crying and telling my baby girl who’s 3 yo that I’m so sorry the times I’ve failed her and not staying calm and I tell how much I hate reacting that way and that is not right… I love my daughter so much, and she’s one of those kids that’s just way too smart and has such a strong personality… She’s learned to tell us that she doesn’t like it that we’re mad at the moment when it’s happening and/or even afterwards. I’ve thought her that its ok to ask for love when you need it but I feel like she learned to also do it when she’s doing something she’s not supposed too and acts for love right away, it usually gets to me only when she’s being completely rude to me those are the only times I ask her to please calm down and I will no problem give her some love… I’ve learned and have tried to explained to the hubby that she doesn’t like it when someone yells or talks to her in any mean way, she gets worse actually so I’ve told him to try to approach her in a more positive way… He saw exactly what I meant not too long ago, but it saddened me to hear him say that she knows better and/or that is trying to manipulate us and how she’s old enough to listen he first time we tell her something!!! I know he feels that way bc our parents think the same way although my parents have a come a long way thankfully…. And we went to see parental guidance at the theater and there was this part where the grandfather almost spanked his grand kid and said how their parents told him to use peaceful parenting and how he tried but all the kids kept saying was no and they just wouldn’t listen and how their parents don’t spank them (and hubby made a remark as
Saying exactly) stuff like this hurts me :-/ I’ve tried talking to him and I’m just not getting through him no matter what not even by using the examples you use in these article…. It does make it harder for me, and the times i do fail my baby just breaks my heart and I know there’s no excuse

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Wed, 12 Dec 2012 03:35:45 +0000

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Wed, 12 Dec 2012 03:22:41 +0000

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Tue, 30 Oct 2012 19:26:36 +0000

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» I Am Your Midnight Hug… Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources — Mon, 01 Oct 2012 04:29:39 +0000

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By: » Gentle, Practical, Effective Discipline Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources

Mon, 01 Oct 2012 02:50:53 +0000

[...] Your Baby isn’t Trying to Annoy You; He’s Trying to Communicate! From the moment a child enters the world, they are trying to communicate. Crying, grunting, making eye contact, mirroring expressions, all of these things are the instinctive tools built into infants to reach out into a brand new world and make contact. They can do no more. It is entirely up to the parent to make the connection, to respond, to build those all-important ‘lines of communication’ that will be so vitally important to parents in later childhood. Communication is not something that just happens. It is not something that begins when a child becomes verbal, and it’s not a product of a child’s advancing maturity. Communication is a process, a relational building block, a result of intentional and responsive parenting. Read more [...]

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