Award-winning author, L.R.Knost

The Gift of a Strong-Willed Child

[Reprinted from The Gentle Parent: Positive, Practical, Effective Discipline by L.R.Knost. Whispers Through Time: Communication Through the Ages and Stages of Childhood and Two Thousand Kisses a Day: Gentle Parenting Through the Ages and Stages also available on Amazon and through other major retailers.]

gracie megaphoneThere are some children who are born into the world with the incredible life-gift of a strong will and an indomitable spirit. These children are often deeply misunderstood, and there are rows of books lining bookstore shelves with instructions about how to break their will, how to subdue their spirit, how to force their obedience. What an incredible loss of leadership, passion, and insight this world suffers when parents follow these punitive parenting practices. Not only can we parent these gifted children with gentleness and respect, but the gifts we get in return are priceless!

Take a look at some of the common descriptions used when referring to the characteristics of a strong-willed child:

Demanding, Insistent, Stubborn, Bossy, Cocky, Difficult, Challenging, Fixated, Contrary, Rebellious, Defiant

Now look at some of the common characteristics of adults who are world leaders, CEO’s, entrepreneurs, innovators, world-class athletes, and the like:

Decisive, Determined, Persistent, Authoritative, Confident, Valiant, Gutsy, Committed, Resourceful, Nonconforming, Bold

Note that the characteristics are the same, but the characterizations are negative when applied to a child and positive when applied to an adult.

Other characteristics of strong-willed children that coincide with the characteristics of adult leaders in their fields are:

  • They are typically highly creative and intelligent.
  • They are usually passionate and intense in their interests and beliefs.
  • They often have an insatiable need to know ‘why.’
  • They typically learn by doing.
  • They tend to have an intense need to test the status quo.
  • They are typically highly perfection-oriented, but often that is focused on their expectations of themselves instead of others.
  • They tend to need high levels of validation.
  • They usually have an intense need to be heard.
  • They often have a strong need for emotional safety.
  • They tend to be resistant to change unless they feel like they have some control over the change.
  • They are often highly sensitive.
  • They are typically intensely focused on their latest project or interest.
  • They tend to be conscientious and highly committed.
  • They are usually intensely independent.

While there’s no doubt that it’s a challenge having a child who seems to challenge everything, there are ways to work with them rather than against them to preserve and nurture their unique gifts. Maintaining a healthy parent/child relationship is vital as you work to find a balance between setting limits with your richly spirited child while not limiting their freedom to stretch and grow and develop into the person they were created to be.

The key to preserving your trust relationship with your child is remaining calm and present and supportive, even while setting and maintaining reasonable boundaries. It is helpful to remember that the most strong-willed children tend to be the ones who identify the most strongly with their parents. So instead of viewing their seemingly constant challenges as defiance or attempts to thwart authority, work to parent from a place of understanding that your strong-willed child is actually on a discovery mission and is doing endless ‘research’ on you by testing and retesting and digging and chiseling to discover all of your quirks and foibles and ups and downs and strengths and weaknesses. This kind of testing isn’t negative unless you make it into a battle of wills instead of responding with gentle, respectful guidance. Taking this stance will help you to keep from seeing the challenges as personal insults and, instead, see the challenges as attempts to learn and grow and understand.

There is no doubt, though, that parenting a child with the gift of a strong will is a constant exercise in patience and self-regulation. The personal growth you will experience is invaluable as you seek to parent with empathy and wisdom and compassion, but it can be draining and will often stretch you far, far out of your comfort zone. Knowing that and being prepared for it will help you cope with the inevitable stresses, and being ready ahead of time with some specific strategies for handling the challenges will help you to respond calmly and effectively.

This is a good place to revisit the Three C’s of gentle discipline—Connection, Communication, and Cooperation.

Connection ~ Maintaining a secure connection with your spirited child is vital. It is the springboard from which all of your interactions with your child will originate, and it is the touchstone to which you will both return, again and again and again, when your relationship gets strained and stained and stretched.

  • Play word games, board games, rough-and-tumble outdoor games, silly face in the mirror games. Play is the language of childhood, so make sure to speak your child’s language every day.
  • Laugh together. Humor is an undervalued parenting tool. But it lowers defenses, inspires smiles, brings people together, and reconnects hearts.
  • Read storybooks, chapter books, travel brochures, encyclopedias, anything that will inspire you to dream together, talk, plan, get excited, share interests.
  • Focus more on who your child is than on what your child does. Remember, you’re growing a person, not fixing a problem. So make sure to spend time getting to know the person, not just the child. It doesn’t have to cost anything. Just walk together, talk together, share ice cream cones, spot shapes in the clouds, and enjoy each other.

Communication ~ Children have their own ‘inner world’ of thoughts and plans and problems and worries and hopes and dreams that are occupying their time and attention, so a lack of cooperation is often simply the result of having a different agenda than we do. Getting some insight into that ‘inner world’ is key in guiding and growing them respectfully.

  • Listen with your heart. Listen ‘between the lines’ to what your child is communicating through their behavior. Listen and listen and listen some more. That is always, always the first step in communicating with your child.
  • Reflect, connect, and redirect. Reflect what you hear, whether it’s communicated by your child’s behavior or their words. This not only validates their emotions and lets them know that you hear and understand them, but it also helps them to understand their own emotions. For instance, if your child is upset that he can’t have a cookie after brushing his teeth for bedtime, try saying, “I hear you. You’re upset because you want a cookie.” Then reestablish your connection, “I like cookies, too!” and offer a solution, “How about we go pick out the two best cookies and put them in a special container that we can take to the park in the morning?”
  • Don’t take non-compliance as a personal insult. A strong-willed child is very much their own person with their own agenda. Focus on inviting cooperation instead of demanding obedience. Whether it’s staying in bed or cleaning up or whatever the issue, make it a team effort and come up with a game plan ahead of time. For example, you could say, “You seem to be having trouble staying in bed at night. What do you think would help you to be more ready to go to sleep when it’s time for bed?” or “It’s important to pick up our things so they don’t get broken, let’s put on the timer and work together for ten minutes and see who gets the most picked up.”
  • Make a firm commitment not to resort to punishments to control behavior. The resentment that comes from being punished absolves children in their own minds of responsibility. It doesn’t teach them responsibility, and resentment can actually cause a lot of the behaviors you are trying to avoid.
  • Communicate daily, outwardly to your child and inwardly to yourself, the positive aspects of your child’s personality. When the focus is on ‘fixing’ a child, they get the message that they are somehow broken, and that is not a healthy self-image to take into adulthood.
  • ‘No’ is not a complete thought. It is an imperative, a command. It doesn’t teach. It tells. If you want your child to learn to think like an adult, take the time to explain your adult thinking.
  • Remember that children, especially when they are upset, open ‘conversations’ through their behavior, and it’s up to us, the only adults in the relationship, to gently guide them toward continuing those conversations verbally as well as equipping them with the resources to be able to do so.
  • Also keep in mind that the social mores of rudeness simply aren’t inborn and don’t apply to early interactions with our children. They are learned by imitating how we as parents behave. Politeness is a heart issue that cannot be imposed by the will of another unless we want it to only be an external façade instead of a heartfelt courtesy.  Helping your strong-willed child learn to speak kindly means speaking kindly to your child as well as offering guidance when they’ve been rude such as saying, “That is not a nice tone of voice” or “That isn’t a kind thing to say” and then offering a do-over “Can you try saying that to me again more nicely? I’ll always try my best to be nice to you, and I would like you to try to do the same for me.” (see Appendix B in The Gentle Parent: Positive, Practical, Effective Discipline for more ideas)

Cooperation ~ Always keep at the forefront of your parenting goals that you are seeking thoughtful cooperation, not mindless compliance. That way you will remember to treat your child as a thoughtful individual with ideas and needs and feelings of their own instead of a mindless drone there to do your bidding.

  • Set clear limits and explain them in age-appropriate terms. Remember, if you want to invite cooperation, you have to actually issue the invitation to cooperate!
  • Limit the number of limits. Spirited children are often stressed children simply because of their own intense emotions and reactions to things, so set them up for success by keeping your limits few and clear and by maintaining them consistently.
  • Make sure to let your child have a voice in determining the limits so they feel like they have some control over their lives and so they feel some ownership over the limits.
  • Brainstorm together ways of helping everyone to work together. Some ideas are to come up with hand signals or words that remain your little secret codes to indicate when it’s time to leave the park or to do homework or to dial the activity level or noise volume down a few notches.
  • Invite cooperation by creating daily routines together. Don’t be surprised if your child ends up being the one who is a stickler for following the routine, even to the point of nagging you to follow it. These gifted children tend to be all-in, fully focused and committed, and they’ll expect you to be the same!
  • Cooperate with your child’s needs and personality by working with them rather than against them. For instance, if you know that your child has a hard time leaving a project, give them plenty of time to find a good stopping point when you need them to leave it for a while. Or if you know that your child has a hard time following directions at bedtime, try writing or drawing the tasks that need to be done (i.e. toothbrushing, pajamas, etc.) on ping-pong balls and put them in a small ‘bedtime jar’ so your child can feel some control over their routine as they independently pick out the balls one by one for a ‘surprise’ nighttime order of tasks or take them all out and decide what order to do them in themselves.
  • If you are already locked in a head-to-head power struggle, put away your boxing gloves so your child will (eventually!) feel safe putting away theirs. When you battle with your child, you may win a skirmish or two, but you will lose the treasure…your trust relationship. Putting away the gloves means slowing down, breathing through your own emotions, and finding a way to work through the issue together. Remember, you’re the adult in the relationship, but that doesn’t give you the right to overpower your child; it gives you the responsibility to empower your child. That involves modeling the tools of diplomacy—communication, cooperation, compromise—that you want your child to stock in their own emotional toolkit.

Remember, the children who come into the world with their ‘boxing gloves on’ so to speak are often the ones who become the biggest world changers. It’s not easy raising these little world-changers, I know (Believe me, I know. Two of my six are world-changers-in-the-making!), but the rewards are phenomenal!

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Award-winnning author, L.R.Knost, is the founder and director of the children's rights advocacy and family consulting group, Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources, and Editor-in-Chief of Holistic Parenting Magazine. Books by L.R.Knost include Whispers Through Time: Communication Through the Ages and Stages of Childhood ; Two Thousand Kisses a Day: Gentle Parenting Through the Ages and Stages ; The Gentle Parent: Positive, Practical, Effective Discipline ; and Jesus, the Gentle Parent: Gentle Christian Parenting the first four books in the Little Hearts Handbook gentle parenting series, and children’s picture books Petey’s Listening Ears and the soon-to-be-released Grumpykins series.

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  2. Katie

    I have one of these kids. And I LOVE the phrase “coming into the world with boxing gloves on” because it’s so much more positive than saying “I have a difficult/non-compliant/high needs child.” If fits my son perfectly too. Thanks for this- it’s spot on!

    December 14, 2013 at 4:05 pm

  3. Jo

    Brilliant, profound common sense writings…

    December 15, 2013 at 4:15 am

  4. Donna C

    I am one of these types of people, and 3 of my 4 children are as well. It’s a relief to be reminded of their positive characteristics, instead of always feeling frowned at by others because of them.

    December 18, 2013 at 9:19 pm

  5. My strong-willed son died in the fall. Parents – treasure the strength, the passion, the objections, the drama of it all. Believe me, our world is a much sadder and less interesting place without our dynamo. His passion and persistence often led us to great experience. As a friend of mine said after he died, one of the lessons learned is “embrace the rascals!”

    December 23, 2013 at 11:41 pm

    • Oh, mama, I’m so, so sorry for your loss. I, too, have lost a son, though he died at birth so I never got to know his personality, his strengths and weaknesses, his quirks and interests. Loss changes our perspective dramatically. Praying comfort and healing for you, mama. <3

      December 28, 2013 at 2:30 pm

  6. Rebecca

    Wow, thank you so much! I needed to read this. My 3 year old and I have been butting heads constantly. I’ve been saying her strong personality is such a wonderful thing, but it is really tough right now. Work with her not against her. I feel like a weight has been lifted and my spirits as well. Seeing her behaviors in this perspective is so empowering. Thank you!

    December 25, 2013 at 11:23 pm

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  8. I have a beautiful daughter who blessed our home with this personality. It has been a joy watching grow up into a beautiful, independent, strong, caring, woman.

    Our first battle of wills happened when she was about 2 years old and she held off for 45 minutes. I knew right then and there that she needed to be treated different than her older sibling who was very obedient and compliant. This realization has made our life much more exciting as we have watched her make her way through life “her way”.

    Thanks for the article.

    January 3, 2014 at 1:28 pm

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  10. Val

    wow, would love to have had this Just the kinda information I needed 29 years ago, all that is in this article I experienced with my daughter (now 29 yrs). Not too late tho’ she’s now the mother to ‘same personality’ daughter (my grand-daughter). Thank you, yes, their characteristics are very special and need constant praise and approval, well, thats what true motherhood is!

    January 7, 2014 at 9:06 am

  11. I’m betting that it is often little girls who are misunderstood and subdues too, more so than little boys. Called bossyboots etc, whereas boys like this are much more accepted.

    January 13, 2014 at 4:27 am

  12. Natasja

    i was a child like that and still am. So happy that it is noticed. In the 80’s when i was growing up there was this thing like, discipline and my way or the highway methode.. i felt so unhappy.. now im a mom of a strong willed child, i even teach her teachers how to handle her and they thank me every day. My daughter is a little me, a good mirror, i learn from every day. and as a mom and as the child you are talking about.. i thank you for helping me people to understand. <3 from the netherlands

    January 17, 2014 at 5:21 pm

    • So wonderful that you have been able to recognize what didn’t work for you as a child and make the adjustment to parenting your child more effectively, mama. That’s relatively unusual, as more often than not people end up parenting using the same methods with which they were parented, even if it caused them to have a more difficult childhood. Good for you, mama. (And great for your little one!) 🙂

      January 17, 2014 at 5:40 pm

  13. Liz

    Beautifully written!!! Your blog resonates very strongly with me! Thank you for the tips I needed to re-focus my efforts to raise my amazing child. I have always told my husband that our determined, caring, strong-minded daughter will change the world, we just have to “get her there.” She is 3 and, while at times I would love for her to follow the directions I give without arguing, I really do prefer that she questions and protests. I don’t want her to blindly follow anyone but, rather, I want her to learn to evaluate situations and make decisions based upon what she believes is moral and ethical.

    I do become frustrated, however, by the reactions of others. I’ve often listened to other mothers tell me how their children never throw fits “like that” or how they “just wouldn’t stand for it” if their child …. (fill in the blank). I just keep telling myself that my daughter is a leader and isn’t doing anything wrong by questioning me. Thank you so much for the reinforcement and reminders I needed!!!

    February 15, 2014 at 9:47 pm

  14. Jennifer

    Thank you so much for the article! As a mother of a future world changer as well as an Early Childhood Educator it will come in handy!
    Now… you have any suggestions on how to potty train these future world changers?!?!?

    February 16, 2014 at 9:19 pm

  15. I would have loved to had this information 37 years ago! We were told then that spankings was what he needed! They only made matters worse. I still feel guilty for the choices I made then because I thought I was doing the right thing! Most of these children are highly intelligent and don’t take instruction from anyone else very well! When I speak with parents that are going through this now I advice them to please get professional help! Do not listen to people that have no idea what you’re facing everyday.

    February 16, 2014 at 9:47 pm

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  21. Gineen

    I needed this article as I am reaching wits end with my 6 year old daughter. She hits every bullet point. I am divorced and have been single parenting since she was 6 months old, which makes it even harder, looking for the patience day to day. I love my daughter dearly and really need help letting her be who she is with enforcing boundaries on respectful behavior.

    This helps!

    April 1, 2014 at 9:10 am

  22. Robyn

    I love this article and it has come at the perfect time. I am struggling with my 5 yr old son. We thought he was being defiant and naughty so I is great to read this and see another view which is more positive.

    June 17, 2014 at 9:18 pm

  23. Judy

    I am the mother of 3 sons (all grown now with children of their own). My first son was just such a child and getting him through to adulthood was a real challenge. At 21 he was diagnosed with ADHD and put on meds for that condition. I have never believed this was the right thing for him and after reading the article I am sure of it. What he needed was behavioural therapy and there was nothing available to guide us back then. The children and their behaviours you describe was this son from the age of 2. I remember going to my GP to seek help for him and being told he was just an “over active” boy and would grow out of it – nothing that a few spankings wouldn’t fix! We were at our wits end with him pretty much till he left home. Now he is married to a lovely, gentle woman and they have a son who is 31/2 and presenting the exact same behaviours – strong, wilful, stubborn, defiant, but smart as a whip and with a sense of humour beyond his years. We used to joke that our son would one day have a son just like him and then he would understand what we went through! Well, it has happened and we were sad, but my son sent me this article which has so opened my eyes. Yes there are difficult times ahead for Mum and Dad (and of course my grandson) but I feel sure that the knowledge you impart will go a huge way to helping them all cope and possibly nurture a new World Leader! My heartfelt thanks for your insight and direction – my only regret is you weren’t around when I was a young Mum and so badly needed reassurance. And no, I have never been an advocate of spankings because it is a double standard to hit, hurt, and then turn around and tell them they cannot do the same. Sooo confusing for them to try and reason these things at such a tender age.

    July 1, 2014 at 9:15 am

    • Sally

      Wonderful xx

      April 25, 2016 at 4:26 am

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  26. What you have described here is almost identical to the characteristics of gifted children. No doubt in my mind most of these are gifted kids. This is what they look like when they are born. If you have one of these children check out more about raising gifted children at (Supporting the Emotional Needs of Gifted Children).

    I would add one more “C” to that list, CHOICES. Give these strong willed children choices when you can. It helps so much. They may be as simple as, “do you want to pick up your toys now or after your dinner?”, or “Do you want to wear your green or your blue sweater?”. These give your child respect and autonomy. As they grow so will your relationship with them. Trust me it works!

    September 10, 2014 at 11:41 am

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  29. Shelly Rios

    This is the best advise I’ve read on children-ever. Brilliant, sweet, insightful, and easily readable. Thank you for YOUR intelligence and willingness to be an author.

    November 19, 2014 at 3:33 am

  30. This advise is so informative in so many ways as dealing with kids of this nature can be draining and frustrating and i always saw this behaviour as a power struggle which I needed to discipline and get my 5 year old out of hardly did I understand this is their personality and nature and how it should be nurtured! I have obviously did things totally the opposite way but from today it takes a different direction from the knowledge I now have after reading this article.

    Thank you!

    April 28, 2015 at 4:12 am

  31. Jordan

    Thank you so much for sharing this! I am so glad I found your page today as I was in desperate need of help. I have 3 very strong willed children ages 5, 3.5 and 2. My life has been incredibly challenging lately and I have turned into a parent I do not like being and someone I never thought I would be. I am so happy to read what you have written. I hope I can find a way to change my bad patterns and parent with more love and patience. Looking forward to ordering your book and reading it!

    May 27, 2015 at 11:49 pm

  32. Thank you so much for this post! My eldest is a strong willed child and although I try to be present and understanding of this, I often let my frustration respond instead of my heart. This is a great post that reminded me of that.

    July 11, 2015 at 10:12 pm

  33. Elle

    What a wonderful contribution to the parenting library! I was a strong-willed child and can heartily vouch for the need of such children to be met with love, respect, and understanding rather than harsh discipline and punishment. My parents—who merely followed in the footsteps of their own—were autocrats who relied on near-daily spankings for “guidance”. Breaking my will was precisely their goal, and consequently they had permanently lost my trust by the time I was a few years old. My father later said that my sisters never got the same treatment because they would melt into tears at the slightest stern look. Meanwhile, if I cried the response was “stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.” I never did discover why my tears and theirs were received so differently.

    On that note, one addition I’d make to the attributes of strong-willed children is that they often have a finely honed sense of justice, and, given their sensitive nature, will not easily forgive repeated injustices. By 11 or 12 all that punishment had made me nominally compliant, but my relationship with my parents had become highly superficial and I hid most of my thoughts and many of my actions from them. It’s perhaps unsurprising that I later wound up in an abusive marriage, as I was well accustomed to being considered unworthy and in need of fixing.

    Parents of strong-willed children, please heed the author’s excellent advice! You’ll save your child a lifetime of anguish and years of therapy.

    September 1, 2015 at 2:39 pm

    • Sally

      That sounds so much like my childhood.. congrats for not allowing the cycle to repeat and for having so much awareness (something I believe authoritarian parents don’t have) xxx

      April 25, 2016 at 4:17 am

  34. I wish more teachers and schools could understand, support and respect these children. I am endlessly meeting with my son’s school staff to try to explain what you so eloquently wrote. I will send them here.

    October 9, 2015 at 12:35 am

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  36. Nicole

    Thank you so much for this post. I read a book with my first spirited kiddo that offered advice to make a list of the most challenging characteristics of my kiddo. And then come up with a positive word for perspective for each challenging characteristic on the list. It was profound for me, and my third kiddo is even more spirited than the first. I am often exhausted by her no’s, we all are in our home, and I remind our crew that her independence and strong will will serve her in so many positive ways, if we can preserve that spirit and not try to break her spirit. It my family of origin, compliant good girl behavior was rewarded, and everything else was bad. Very black and white. I had often been labeled stubborn and strong willed and this was not a positive attribute. After many years of books and spiritual work and love from others, I am at a place of nurturing myself for all the divine beauty that God created in me. Work in progress. But I want to pass that on to my sweet ones. Thank you a million times over for your post and useful tips. Grateful heart tonight.

    June 10, 2016 at 6:34 pm

  37. helen paynter

    Wonderful, thank you. Does anybody know where we can educate these children in Sydney, Aust. Like Yofiyah, I’m constantly meeting with school staff (we have 9 and a half years to go) and dealing with judgemental parents.

    June 20, 2016 at 5:02 am

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  39. Lisa

    I defiantly need your book on strong willed children! I feel I’m a seasoned mother having a 24 & 22 year old children who are wonderful functioning adults….BUT…my 4 year old just might be the death of me. She seriously makes me cry. Everytime we have to change plans…even if I tell her way in advance…it’s a total melt down. Sharing toys at school total melt down. She can be soooo sweet other times and she is soooo smart. But the melt downs are killing us. Which book would be best for us?

    June 23, 2016 at 12:19 am

  40. jo

    Thank you ive always trusted my instincts as a parent. I recently decided to stop speech and phycolgist therapy as both public and private immediately wanted to diagnose him with autism. And i new this was not true. He has successfully completed year 1 and looking back at his spelling and maths i still dont see a problem with 8/10 scores but when asked to reply verbally thats a different result. He is highly emotionally very determined boy who gives respect when trust is earned. Yet family and society are against him.
    No one sees the gentle heart but a disobedient child with poor parenting.
    So thank you and to us mums stand strong and just believe.

    December 20, 2016 at 4:35 am

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