Award-winning author, L.R.Knost

Loss-Colored Glasses

[By L.R.Knost, author of Two Thousand Kisses a Day: Gentle Parenting Through the Ages and Stages]
sadFour years ago today I lost my son, Sammy.

Someone once asked me how you get over losing a child. I told them you don’t. It becomes part of who you are, how you view others, how you interact with the world. A part of me is and always will be broken.

But there is value in brokenness, as in every experience in life. I know how precious every smile, every giggle, every hug, every tear, every moment is I get to share with each of my children. I know how brief and fragile life can be. I know every sacrifice I make as a mother, whether it’s sleep or convenience or money or time, pales in comparison to the gifts I get in return.

I spend literally thousands of hours every year researching and studying and writing to bring you the best of the best parenting resources, information, and support. But the lessons I’ve learned over more than 25 years of parenting through life and loss are of far greater value than research. I’m living, day in and day out, the things I share with you, not just quoting studies and theories.

And today I’m living through loss, and I’m hurting, and I want to share that with you, too. I want to share it because I want you to look into your child’s eyes and smile today. I want you to focus on the irreplaceable, unique, wonderful person you’ve been blessed with growing and guiding for such a short season. And I want you to remember to enjoy your little one, to treasure them, today and every day.

We don’t all have to experience loss to appreciate life. Sometimes others’ experiences can give us that gift more gently and peacefully.

So that’s what I lend to you today, these hard-won, tear-washed, loss-colored glasses that bring into breathtaking focus the miraculous, extraordinary, priceless gift of a child. ♥

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Award-winnning author, L.R.Knost, is the founder and director of the children's rights advocacy and family consulting group, Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources, and Editor-in-Chief of Holistic Parenting Magazine. Books by L.R.Knost include Whispers Through Time: Communication Through the Ages and Stages of Childhood ; Two Thousand Kisses a Day: Gentle Parenting Through the Ages and Stages ; The Gentle Parent: Positive, Practical, Effective Discipline ; and Jesus, the Gentle Parent: Gentle Christian Parenting the first four books in the Little Hearts Handbook gentle parenting series, and children’s picture books Petey’s Listening Ears and the soon-to-be-released Grumpykins series.

4 Responses

  1. Jennifer

    That made me cry. It was heart wrenching yet beautiful message. Thank you for your courage and strength to share! You work hard to provide information that helps us all be better parents, thank you for that!

    June 5, 2013 at 2:37 pm

  2. Mom

    My sweet daughter ~ today you and little Sammy have been on my mind and on my heart. All of your children are wonderfully precious to me. It’s hard to believe that four years have gone by since the loss of little Sammy. I know you hurt, and I wish that I could do more to help you. I do pray for you, and I’m so proud of the person you have become. Please remember that you are not alone in your memories and hurts today. I love you so much and join you in remembering sweet Sammy.

    June 5, 2013 at 5:06 pm

  3. In Tears! Thank you for the gentle reminder to love those little ones every day and appreciate them. Life can be so fragile, as you so accurately stated. It’s easy for me to take things for granted. Thanx again for the wakeup.

    June 5, 2013 at 8:11 pm

  4. Thanks for reminding us all to treasure our time with our children (It IS so easy to forget, with the hassles of everyday life.)

    June 11, 2013 at 4:22 am

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